Valentine's Day Advice

Etiquette and Advice from the Emily Post Institute
Be Romantic and Give Her Goosebumps!

Valentine?s Day, an opportunity to communicate how you truly feel about your loved one. The most successful relationships are grounded in a continuous effort to connect: and here?s your ready-made chance. Whether you consider yourself a communication guru, connecting with your significant other constantly, or a dud, with communication efforts few and far between, here are a few pointers to give her (or him!) goosebumps.

  • Develop your Valentine?s Day plan. Think about what suits your personalities and relationship. The simpler and more heartfelt the plan, the easier to pull it off. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it includes time and space for just the two of you to build your language of love.
  • Make your Valentine?s Day restaurant reservation ASAP?popular eateries fill up fast. Securing a spot at his favorite restaurant (even if it?s not yours) will make him feel warm and fuzzy.
  • Is there something special you want to tell your significant other on Valentine?s? If so, make the time to mull it over. When you are speaking, you want to be able to focus on your loved one and her reaction, not worrying if you are saying the right thing.
  • Presenting your significant other with roses?or her favorite flower?is a sure sign of your amorous intent. And you do get extra points for knowing her favorite flower. (Men like flowers too! He?ll be tickled and touched, and his co-workers will be green with envy.)
  • Get the card now! Don?t wait until the last minute when the selection at your corner store includes only mushy or mundane sentiments. What do you really want to tell the most important person in your life?
  • Dress up for him or her. Men: Shave, haircut, pressed clothes. Wear the sweater (even if it itches) that she loves you in. Women: Dig out that dress he gave you last year that you think makes you look fat but he thinks it makes you look sexy. Just make the effort!
Peter Post?s Essential Manners for Couples Valentine?s Countdown

February 1
If your significant other said that she didn?t mind that you forgot Valentine?s last year?she didn?t mean it. A well-planned gift will impress her?and flowers will give her goosebumps.

February 2
Develop your Valentine?s Day plan. Think about what suits your personalities and relationship. The simpler and more heartfelt the plan, the easier to pull it off. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it includes time and space for just the two of you to continue to build your relationship.

February 3
Make your Valentine?s Day restaurant reservation now?popular eateries fill up fast. Securing a spot at his favorite restaurant (even if it?s not yours) will make him feel warm and fuzzy.

February 4
Presenting your significant other with roses?or her favorite flower?is a sure sign of your amorous intent. And you do get extra points for knowing her favorite flower.

February 5
Schedule him (or her) in: if you?re planning a surprise lunch date, make sure their work calendar is clear.

February 6
Men like flowers too! He?ll be tickled and touched, and his co-workers will be green with envy.

February 7
Get the card now! Don?t wait until the last minute when the selection at your corner store includes only mushy or mundane sentiments. What do you really want to tell the most important person in your life?

February 8
Dress to impress on Valentine?s: it shows your partner you care. Get a haircut. Try new perfume Shave. Try a new hairstyle. Make sure whatever you wear is clean and pressed.

February 9
Plan on having quiet cocktails while getting to know each other again. Play Kiss & Make Up: An Etiquette Game for Couples and really listen to each other?and laugh.

February 10
Valentine?s calls for a bubbly beverage. Before your dinner date, pop open a bottle of her favorite Champagne or delicious sparkling water, pour it into beautiful flutes, and celebrate your relationship.

February 11
Is there something special you want to tell your significant other on Valentine?s? If so, take the time to mull it over. When you are speaking, you want to be able to focus on your loved one and her reaction, not worrying if you are saying the right thing.

February 12
If you?re dining in on Valentine?s, don?t forget to have flowers delivered to your home. A beautiful arrangement sets the mood. And make sure the arrangement is such that you can see your honey?s face.
Also, do the dishes together. It may not seem romantic, but sharing the load, with each person taking part of the burden, is one of the best ways to strengthen your relationship. And when the chores are out of the way, you can focus on each other.

February 13
Kids change everything in a relationship. But you can still make Valentine?s special. After the kids go to bed: be playful and affectionate, give a terrific back rub or massage, watch your wedding video (and get all choked up), tell your significant other that he/she is as handsome/beautiful today as the day you met. All these ideas can work for singles as well!

Valentine?s Day (February 14)
You?re not too late! And remember, both words and actions are important to building a strong relationship. Give her flowers and make sure to tell her how you feel.


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