Location: Funeral Home/Funeral Home ChapelsTraditional wakes or visitation hours are most often held at the funeral home itself, or in rare cases, at the home of the deceased or immediate family member. Most commonly referred to as a viewing or wake, this type of service gives friends and loved ones an opportunity to say one last goodbye to the deceased, as well as provides mourners with a chance to meet one another for support. Visitation hours are most often held a few days before the actual funeral service and only last a few hours.
Location: Religious Place of Worship: (e.g. church, synagogue, temple) It is common for funeral services to be held first at the funeral home and then later, at a church or place of worship, where a full or condensed religious service is performed. These types of services are most frequently held early in the morning and are attended by immediate family members and close friends. Following the service attendees will typically drive in a procession to the cemetery or burial site, but this is not always the case. Oftentimes a funeral home or church staff will take on the responsibility of transporting flowers from the funeral service to the gravesite.
Location: Cemetery/Cemetery Chapel/Graveside About: There are cases when a memorial service will be conducted at the site of internment, while at other times a funeral procession from a church or place of service will arrive at the grave site following a ceremony. In both cases the burial site is the location of the final service where a prayer or military honor may be preformed. Following this type of the service the deceased is either interred or the ashes scattered on site, or given to the family.
Cremation is a common practice in which a corpse is reduced to ashes by means of burning. Cremation is generally carried out in a crematorium furnace or crematory fire and is an alternative to internment or the funeral rite of burial. Just like internment, cremations often have viewing hours and funeral services prior to the scattering of the ashes or receiving of the ashes by the deceased’s family. Regardless of if the deceased is interred or cremated, sending flowers is proper sympathy etiquette.
Location: Can be at a funeral home, family’s home, park, restaurant, beach, or any location chosen by the immediate family as a place to congregate for last respects to be paid and the individual’s life celebrated. The purpose of a life celebration is just as the name suggests – to celebrate the life and achievements of the deceased. These unique memorials are tailored to the specific interests of the individual being honored, and may include special music, food or a special activity that reflects the deceased’s personality. What to Send: In the unique circumstance of a life celebration, expressions should reflect the individual in some way. Your expression may include an arrangement made up of the their favorite flower and can be traditional (Lilies in a Vase) or more celebratory (Happy Hour bouquet). Either way your expression should be one of meaning and reflect your unique relationship to the deceased.
A military funeral is often performed if the deceased was a member the armed forces. The specific rituals performed are often reflective of the deceased’s rank, whether or not he or she was on active duty when he or she passed, as well as which branch they served in. Gun salutes, drumming, and the draping of a nation’s flag over the coffin are the common military funeral honors you’re likely to come across. It’s important to note that funeral flowers are never laid on top of the flag, nor will you see flowers on a casket covered by the flag. You’ll instead find standing arrangements and baskets to be the most appropriate expression for military funeral services. What to Send: It’s appropriate to send traditional standing sprays, floor or standing baskets, standing wreaths, fireside baskets, as well as red, white, and blue floral arrangements to a military funeral service.
Location: Generally funeral home or religious institution Just as members of the armed forces are often given special funeral rites, public servants, such as police officers and firefighters, are also granted unique honors during their funeral or memorial service. For members of the police academy a 21-gun salute is a traditional way of honoring the deceased’s service to the community, though the family may choose not to carry out certain traditions. There are also unique procedures carried out for line-of-duty deaths for both police and firefighters that may include the appointment of a liaison who will act as a point of contact between the bereaved and the police or fire department. Elaborate funeral processions are also common in the case of a line-of-duty death, and many members of the department will arrive to the funeral or memorial services in full uniform. What to Send: Standing arrangements such as sprays, wreaths, and floor baskets are appropriate expressions to send. Often personal tributes in the form of a shield may also be a way of conveying sympathy as well as honoring the deceased’s service to the community.
Location: Location: Outdoors at family’s request As an alternative to a traditional funeral the deceased’s family may choose to hold a green funeral or green burial. This funeral alternative seeks out new, natural ways to perform a burial that use fewer resources, leave less of an imprint on the environment, and require fewer funds. Green burials are often chosen to promote and extend the deceased’s values and concerns about the environment. These natural burials help to conserve both land and resources, as well as to reduce the use of harmful chemicals used in embalming processes. What to Send: In the unique case of a green burial it’s appropriate to send a meaningful expression to the home of the bereaved. Memorial trees, live plants, and fruit baskets are all excellent choices for expressing your sympathy, and support the natural lifestyle promoted by green burials.
Pet Sympathy Location: At a funeral home or alternate setting Animal lovers will often hold memorial services for a cherished pet, especially for those they may have had for a while. While pet memorials are rarely as extensive as those conducted for humans, expressions of sympathy are always welcome. What to Send: Small vase arrangements, a potted plant, memorial, stepping-stones, or books are appropriate expressions of sympathy.
Location: Home of the deceased or immediate family member Home burials are an alternative to traditional funerals that continue to increase in popularity along with the green movement. Many times home burials are carried out with the guidance of a funeral director, who will oversee all aspects of the burial, and make sure all state regulations for burial are met. Home burials are often chosen as an alternative means of internment because of they tend to be much less expensive than traditional burial, and are a way to keep the body of a loved one close to home. What to Send: Vase arrangements, flower baskets, and standing sprays are appropriate expressions of sympathy and can be sent to the home of the bereaved at any time.
Location: As family determines Private funeral or memorial services are typically smaller than traditional services. Private services are closed to the general public, and only those who are directly invited may attend. While there are many circumstances under which a family may opt to hold a private service some might include infant deaths, victims of crime, or celebrity deaths. Oftentimes, extreme emotional shock may prevent a family from opening services up to the public. Private services may also be held to reduce cost and keep the ceremony simple and intimate. What to Send: Standing Sprays, vase arrangements, plants, suits the individual and the grieving family.
Location: As family determines Alternative funeral services have increased in popularity over the years as a movement to “take back death” and restore the intimacy between the living and their dead. Rather than leaving everything in the hands of a funeral director, many have chosen to take care of it themselves. Often, this means family members will help wash and dress the body of their deceased loved one, build a casket, or plan a memorial service. By spending such an intimate amount of time with the deceased’s body, the bereaved are given a chance to say goodbye and may come to terms with their loved one’s death sooner than if they left these duties to someone else.