Fall Feelings: How Did We Get Here So Fast?

There comes a time every September when it’s impossible to deny summer’s end. You feel it in the first morning that requires a jacket or notice it in the shadows stretching across the dinner table. The trees haven’t turned yet, but a few yellow leaves tell you what’s coming.

Those first signs of fall stir up complicated feelings in me. Of course, I look forward to football, pumpkin patches, walks in the crisp air, and all the familiar rituals that bring people together each autumn. At the same time, I can’t help feeling a tinge of sadness.

Some of that melancholy is easy to explain: It’s hard not to miss the long days and relaxed rhythms of summer once they begin to disappear. But I think there’s something else behind the feeling.

With the leaves changing and daylight shrinking, fall makes the passage of time unusually difficult to ignore. Another summer that seemed far away in May has passed. Maybe part of the sadness we feel each September comes from the surprise of how quickly we got here.

Why the years feel shorter

Think about how differently we experience time depending on whether we’re looking ahead or looking back. Back in May, an entire summer stretched ahead, with vacations still to take and weekends that hadn’t been planned yet. Three months felt like plenty of time.

Now we’re looking back on those same three months, and they seem to have disappeared in an instant. Nothing changed about the number of days between May and September. What changed was our perspective.

We experience that trick of time throughout our lives. A week can crawl when we’re waiting for something and vanish when we’re busy. As children, the year between birthdays can seem endless. Later, birthdays have a way of showing up before we’re quite ready for another one.

Part of the reason may be that new experiences give our minds more landmarks. Childhood is filled with firsts. As life becomes more familiar and routine, months can blend more easily, and we perceive time as flying by.

For a few weeks in September, the world around us practically insists that we notice where we are. Fall gives us visible proof that time has moved on. We see how much has changed in just a few months, and suddenly another year doesn’t feel quite as long as it once did.

Looking back before moving forward

Now that the summer we spent months anticipating is suddenly behind us, September offers a natural opportunity to take stock. I find myself thinking about the plans I made back in May and June and wondering which ones actually came to pass. Did I see the people I wanted to see? What did I keep putting off until another weekend?

There will always be trips we didn’t take and projects we didn’t finish, so there’s little value in keeping score. What’s more revealing is which of those missed opportunities still bother us after the season has passed. Those regrets have a way of pointing toward the things we most value.

If I’m disappointed that I didn’t see a friend, that tells me the relationship deserves more of my attention. If I wish I’d spent another afternoon with my family instead of answering emails, I’ve learned something worth carrying forward. The point isn’t to feel guilty about how we spent yesterday but to make a more deliberate choice about tomorrow.

Making the most of time doesn’t have to mean doing more. Most of us already have plenty on our calendars. The challenge is making sure the things that matter most — dinner with a friend or a phone call we’ve been meaning to make — aren’t pushed to another day.

Living the season we're in

The seasons of nature are a pretty good metaphor for our lives. We each eventually reach our own autumn, when the fact that our time is finite becomes harder to ignore.

That’s a sobering thought, but I find something hopeful in it. Part of what makes fall so beautiful is knowing how fleeting it is. We admire the leaves precisely because we know they’ll soon be gone. There’s a lesson in appreciating the people in our lives with that same awareness.

We don’t get to choose how quickly the seasons change, but we do have some say in how we experience them. We can rush through fall thinking about the summer that just ended, or we can notice what’s right in front of us and what’s ahead.

All the best,

Jim

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