Summer Birthdays: Why Your Presence May Be the Best Present
What my grandmothers, a peach pie, and a July birthday taught me about celebrating the people we love.
Published: Jul 31, 2026 | Modified: Jul 31, 2026
If you don’t have a summer birthday, it probably sounds like a dream. After all, what could be better than celebrating in warm weather with backyard barbecues and beach parties?
But as someone born in July, I can tell you there’s a catch. Growing up, many of my friends were away at camp or on family vacations when my birthday rolled around. I used to envy classmates who celebrated with cupcakes at school and a classroom full of friends singing “Happy Birthday.”
As it turns out, that doesn’t change much with age. Summer calendars quickly fill with weddings, reunions, vacations, and long weekends. The nicest days of the year also seem to be the hardest to gather everyone together.
Fortunately, my friends and family have never let a busy summer calendar get in the way. They’ve always found time to celebrate, even if it meant planning a little farther ahead or choosing a different day. Those extra efforts have made every birthday feel special.
Maybe that’s why I’ve come to appreciate summer birthdays more as I’ve grown older. They remind me that the greatest birthday gifts are the people who show up each year and the rituals that give memories a place to live.
The heart of the celebration
By the time my birthday rolled around each July, I knew my grandmothers would find a way to be there. Summer vacations came and went, and friends weren’t always around. My grandmothers’ arrival was one thing I could count on.
Each arrived with a present and insisted hers should be opened first. They teased one another, turning it into a little game every year. As a boy, I thought that was simply how birthdays worked. Only later did I understand how much love was wrapped up in that familiar ritual.
As they walked through the front door, the celebration felt complete. Their laughter filled the house, conversations drifted through the afternoon, and my birthday somehow felt bigger simply because they were there.
That same spirit lives on in our family today, even though the celebration looks different. We gather around the table instead of the living room floor, and the guest list now includes children and grandchildren. At some point, cake gave way to peach pie. (For years, Marylou baked it herself. Today, she and our granddaughters make an annual trip to Briermere Farms to bring one home.)
Years have blurred together in many ways, but I can still picture my grandmothers laughing in our living room and, later, a peach pie waiting on the table. Rituals have a way of staying with us. Long after the presents are forgotten, they’re what bring a birthday back to life.
Every family has birthday rituals
Every family seems to have its own birthday traditions. Many of you have shared stories of rituals that began almost by accident and, over time, became inseparable from the celebration.
One of my favorite stories came from Marie. Because her June birthday came after school ended, her family invented a January “half-birthday” party so all her classmates could celebrate. Half the room was decorated, half a birthday cake was served, and even the games were cut in half. It turned the challenge of a summer birthday into a tradition everyone looked forward to.
Mary's family has a tradition that's just as memorable. When her son fell in love with Herbie the Love Bug as a little boy, she baked him a Volkswagen Beetle birthday cake. Years later, birthday celebrations have moved to the racetrack with their racing family, but the cake still makes the trip. She put it best:
“Some traditions are simply too special to outgrow.”
The best part of birthdays
Whether your birthday falls in the middle of summer or winter, I hope you’ll take a moment to appreciate the people and rituals that have become part of your celebrations. They may feel ordinary in the moment, but years from now, they’re what you’ll remember most.
That’s because birthdays have never really been about just cake or candles. They’re about gathering the people who matter most and finding small ways to let everyone know they matter to each other. All families celebrate differently, but this message is always the same.
If this year’s celebration inspires a new ritual, don’t worry about getting it perfect. Just make it yours. Before long, it may become the tradition everyone looks forward to repeating year after year.
All the best,
Jim
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Jim McCann is the founder and chairman of 1-800-FLOWERS.COM, Inc. as well as a business leader, author, and philanthropist with a passion for helping people deliver smiles. Devoted to helping others, he also founded Smile Farms, a 501(c)3 organization that provides meaningful jobs in agricultural settings to young adults and adults with developmental disabilities.
