How to Put on a Boutonniere in Less Than 5 Minutes

A boutonniere is a classic accessory that adds a touch of elegance and sophistication to any suit or tuxedo. However, many people don’t know how to put one on, which can lead to frustration and even damage to the flower itself (not to mention the possibility of sticking yourself with a pin).

If you have a special occasion coming up and want to add that final touch to your formal attire, you may be wondering, “How do I put on a boutonniere?” In this step-by-step guide, we walk you through how to put on a boutonniere in under 5 minutes.

Choosing the right boutonniere for your suit

The boutonniere’s purpose isn’t to steal the show, per se, but rather to add a final flair to your overall ensemble.

First and foremost, consider the color of your suit. The boutonniere should provide a contrast that allows it to stand out without clashing. It doesn’t have to match your tie or pocket square precisely, but it should complement the colors and patterns of your overall attire.

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Other factors include the style of your suit and the occasion you’re attending. An ornate, extravagant boutonniere may be out of place at a business event, but perfect for a festive gala. A simple, elegant rose is a classic choice for weddings, while a less formal event, such as a prom, might call for a playful, colorful carnation.

Take note of the season as well. Certain flowers are more readily available and appropriate for different times of the year. A sprig of holly adds a festive touch for a winter event, whereas a daisy might be just the thing for a spring gathering.

Finding the right placement for your boutonniere

The traditional place to pin a boutonniere is on your left lapel. (That’s so it’s closer to your heart, a nod to the symbolism it carries.) To determine its exact location, look for the buttonhole on your lapel. If you don’t have a buttonhole, simply imagine where it would be, generally halfway up the lapel.

Next, align the stem to run parallel with the edge of your lapel. This gives it a neat, tidy look and keeps it securely in place. Make sure the flower head is pointing skyward.

Lastly, ensure your boutonniere doesn’t extend beyond the width or length of your lapel. This is not an instance where “bigger is better.” An oversized boutonniere may end up looking more gaudy than classy. The key is to seamlessly integrate the boutonniere into your outfit, not overwhelm it.

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Pinning the boutonniere: A step by step guide

  1. Before pinning your boutonniere, ensure it is in pristine condition. A wilted or worn boutonniere can distract from your polished appearance.
  2. Hold the boutonniere up to your left lapel, positioning it over the buttonhole.
  3. Grab a pin. (This is typically included with the boutonniere. If it is not, a simple straight pin will do.)
  4. Gently hold the boutonniere in place with one hand. With your other hand, push the pin through the back of your lapel, catching the boutonniere’s stem and pushing the pin back through to the backside of the lapel. Be careful not to prick your fingers!
  5. Double check the position. It should be firm, not wobbly, with the pin hidden from view.
  6. Check your reflection to confirm that the boutonniere isn’t extending beyond the width or length of your lapel.
  7. Step back and admire your work!

Practice before the big event

Don’t wait until the day of your event to try putting on your boutonniere for the first time. Be proactive and practice beforehand. 

With adequate practice, you’ll cultivate the skill and confidence needed to attach your boutonniere flawlessly. Plus, you’ll be prepared for any last-minute adjustments or reattachments required on the day of the event.

The Corsage and Boutonniere: A Floral History

From tulips to chrysanthemums, our series “The Language of Flowers” explores everything from fresh flower care tips to flower symbolism and meaning. Learn all about the rich history of corsages and boutonnieres, including where they come from, what they mean, and why we wear them.

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Throughout history, whenever people dressed for a formal event, flowers were always an important part of the outfit. Formalwear demanded floral accessories. And the two most popular items adorning outfits were corsages and boutonnieres.

Today, flowers on dresses, lapels, wrists, and hair are popular, especially at high school proms and weddings, according to Jackie Lacey, a member of the Professional Floral Commentators International and the 2019-2021 National President of the American Institute of Floral Designers. Floral accouterments are fashion statements, Lacey says, just as much as wearing jewelry or accessorizing with scarves, gloves, and bags.

The practice of wearing flowers as decoration goes back thousands of years.

History of corsages

Traditionally, a corsage was a small bouquet pinned to a dress. Ancient Greeks believed fragrant flowers warded off evil spirits, which explains why brides carried bouquets down the aisle or pinned flowers to themselves.

Derived from the French words “bouquet de corsage,” which translates to “bouquet of the bodice,” corsages originally were worn by French women to weddings and funerals, and were most often pinned to the top of their dresses.

In the Victorian era, women started putting flowers in their décolletage, the low-cut neckline of their dress. “One of the reasons corsages were moved to the shoulder was because the suitor, if he brought her one, would never touch a woman in that area of her body,” Lacey says. “So they were moved to the shoulder, where he could pin it appropriately.”

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The 21st century ushered in sleeveless and spaghetti-strap dresses, and that led to corsages making their way from women’s chests to their wrists.

We typically think of corsages and boutonnieres as popping up around prom season. But corsages used to show up at church and brunch on holidays such as Easter and Mother’s Day. “Corsages were worn for Easter as part of new clothes. They became a fashion accessory that you would wear,” Lacey says.

While corsages used to be a symbol of romantic love, they’ve become more of a fashion statement in recent years. Today, it’s not uncommon for parents to buy a corsage for their daughter, friends to buy them for one another, and even people to buy them as gifts for themselves.

History of boutonnieres

The boutonniere dates back to the ancient Egyptians and Aztecs, who wore flowers to indicate which team or player they supported in sporting events, Lacey says.

In the 15th century, a woman who was interested in a knight might give him flowers or a scarf in the color of the dress she was wearing on his foray into battle, Lacey says. The gesture meant good luck and bestowed her good graces on the knight.

Lacey points to the Wars of the Roses, when the Lancaster family wore red and the York family white as part of their coat of armor, as a key point in the history of boutonnieres.

a photo of corsage and boutonniere with a woman pinning a boutonniere on her prom date's lapel

“Flowers were worn to show support to one side of a battle over the other because the speech and clothing would have likely been the same,” he says. The English wars for power were the gateway to men wearing flowers or boutonnieres.

The rise of men wearing boutonnieres, or lapel adornments, grew in the early 19th century, when the period dress began to include coats that folded over at the top and included a buttonhole, Lacey says. “Many men would wear flowers every day as part of their daily clothing since most men in business wore a suit to work,” he adds.

As recently as 20 years ago, boutonnieres could be observed on the suits — typically on the left side, where the lapel buttonhole is — of men on Mother’s Day, Lacey found. “There used to be a huge market of flowers in white or red to indicate whether or not your mother was alive,” he says. White meant she was living, and red meant she was not.

The boutonniere became a key element of a promgoers’ attire, although they did go out of style for a few years, starting around 2012. “Young people, for a little while, felt the flowers were passé, an extra expense, and a luxury they could do without,” Lacey says. Sales of prom flowers are back today, with young people choosing to express themselves with their flower choices, and that is partly because of creativity in the industry. “Some of the increase was due to flower shops rethinking the way they market to this generation and how to recapture declining sales,” he says.

Today, boutonnieres also are often seen on the lapel of a groom and other members of his bridal party at his wedding, with the women carrying corresponding bouquets of flowers. The sophisticate may occasionally wear a boutonniere at a special event such as an auction or a fundraising party. A flower on the lapel is also a mark of significance on special occasions. “Wearing a boutonniere might show you are being honored or of importance to the event,” Lacey says.

The history and tradition of corsages and boutonnieres is surprisingly rich and eclectic. If you’re a promgoer this year, or if someone close to you is, you’re now equipped with all you need to know to choose the perfect flowers for the big night.

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How to Pick the Perfect Flowers for a Prom Corsage or Boutonniere

The month of May brings that cherished end-of-the-school-year tradition — prom! From the “promposal” to the exchange of the corsage and boutonniere, each couple takes a personal journey, one that culminates in an evening that they will remember for the rest of their lives.

Proms have been around since around the turn of the 20th century, but the tradition of wearing flowers goes back thousands of years. Read on to learn more about the history of exchanging flowers during prom, as well as how to choose the best floral look for the night.

History of corsages and boutonnieres

Flowers have been worn since the time of the Greeks. “They thought the fragrance from the flowers would ward off evil spirits or disease,” says Jackie Lacey, a member of the Professional Floral Commentators International and the 2019-21 National President of the American Institute of Floral Designers. Ancient Greek floral arrangements included herbs and flowers.

The prom corsages we know today became popular over 100 years ago, when young men would present a bouquet to a woman’s family as a way of saying thanks for the date. The man would break off one of the blooms and pin it to his date’s dress. “Now it’s turned into the date’s corsage instead of buying flowers for the mom,” Lacey says. “But I still suggest it — it’s a great way to get on the good side of the parents,” he says with a laugh.

prom corsage with date pinning boutonniere on lapel

The tradition of exchanging flowers at the beginning of a date led to today’s gifts of corsages and boutonnieres at proms. While boutonnieres continue to adorn a guy’s left shoulder or lapel, corsages may be pinned to the belt or top of a dress. Especially popular are wrist corsages, as many dresses are made of delicate beading or strapless and, thus, have no place for a pin, Lacey notes. There are even keepsake corsages made of silk roses that allow you to keep the memory of the night.

Tips for picking the prom corsage and boutonniere

Typically, the person buying the corsage asks the wearer about outfit colors so the flowers match or are complementary to the dress or suit. It’s best to have a discussion with your date before the event about what you’re wearing, which colors you like — and which ones you don’t — and whether you’d prefer a wrist corsage or a corsage on your dress. Maybe you’re planning a head wreath and you’d rather not have a corsage at all. Prepping will add anticipation to the special night.

prom corsage with man tying a wrist corsage

One idea for the guys: Take a cue from past generations and buy a bouquet of roses that complement your date’s dress, and then pull one out for her to carry. A single red rose is a statement: It’s classic, elegant, and beautiful.

Lacey advises ordering your prom corsage or boutonniere early — one to two weeks in advance. That’s to allow time for the May rush of Kentucky Derby partiesMother’s Day, showers, and both senior and junior proms. Ordering early will increase the chances of getting the type of flowers you prefer.

Lacey also recommends picking up your arrangements the day before prom since prom day can be hectic for both you and your florist. “Keep the flowers sealed in the container and store them in the refrigerator away from the freezer,” he says. “As long as they are kept cool and not frozen, your flowers should be fine for a day in the fridge.”

If your date wants flowers in her hair — even one or two of the corsage blooms — make sure you get those to her early in the day.

Finally, make sure to take pictures of the exchange, the couple, and friends. You’ll want to remember this night!

Adornment for the hair

Wearing flowers in the hair has become popular with promgoers over the past few years, according to Lacey. “They call it a halo, head wreath, or head ring, or attach flowers to a comb or barrette,” he says. Bands were really popular when fascinators became in fashion a few years ago. A florist might add ribbons, beads, and rhinestones as accessories to the flowers for the head wreath or crown.

Flowers that last

It’s important to use flowers that will look fresh without water for corsages, boutonnieres, and hair adornments. “Most of the flowers today are glued in with adhesive rather than tape and wire, which cuts down on the weight,” Lacey says. “This allows you to get creative with what you’re providing, but it limits what you can use without water and with greater expense.”

prom corsage with a promgoer wearing a wrist corsage

Here are Lacey’s picks for popular flowers to use for prom creations:

Traditional choices for prom corsages

Modern choices for prom corsages

  • Hypericum berries
  • Herbs (mint, lavender, sage)
  • Eucalyptus
  • Crespedia
  • Foliage (for a more natural, organic look)

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How to Create the Best Promposal

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While they might be a little too young for marriage, many high school juniors and seniors are looking forward to a proposal — a promposal, that is. Asking someone to prom over dinner may be all it takes for some couples, but if you’re in high school, or have been around high schoolers lately, you know the name of the game these days is “Go big or go home!”

Whether you’re looking for suggestions on how to get your significant other to ask you to prom, or if you’re the asker looking for some clever promposal ideas, here are five ideas for how you can create the best promposal using flowers.

1. Spell it out

Using the petals from her favorite flowers, spell out “Prom?” or “Will you go to prom with me?” You can do this on the floor, the table, or a large poster that you hang up at school. Then, lead her to her destination by creating a flower trail also made of petals — just make sure you also have a bouquet of her favorite flowers waiting there!

2. Write it out

Like many girls, the first thing she’ll do when she’s presented with a flower is stick her nose in it and smell it — use this as an opportunity to take her by surprise! Instead of giving her the flower as is, write “Will you go to prom with me?” across the petals. When she goes to take a whiff, she’ll see your message and, hopefully, reply with a resounding “Yes!”

promposal ideas with red rose prom corsage

3. Give her a corsage

No prom ensemble is complete without a corsage or boutonniere. Think about giving her a corsage early and asking her if she thinks the flowers will match her dress. Then, when she asks you what dress you’re talking about, tell her it’s her prom dress and that you’re certain it will match your suit — we’re sure she’ll get the hint!

4. Send a flower a day

There’s nothing like the suspense of waiting for a promposal. Keep her on the edge of her seat by sending her one flower a day for a week or two. You can send it to her home, classroom, or somewhere else she goes every day. Then, when you’re ready to officially “prompose,” make sure she finds you waiting with an entire bouquet filled with that same flower and pop the question.

5. Shower her with flowers

On the day you’re ready to ask her to prom, take five roses (or her favorite flower, if you prefer) and attach a card to the stem of each one. Put a “P” on the first card, an “R” on the second, and so on and so forth until all together the flowers spell out “Prom?” Then, recruit your friends to deliver one flower at a time throughout the day in any letter order. Once she has them all, she has to unscramble them to figure out your message!


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