Sympathy - What's Appropriate?
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Expressions of Sympathy
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Funeral Flowers: What's Appropriate
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Often the selections for sympathy flowers include larger pieces for the casket or specialty pieces such as floral crosses or wreaths that are not appropriate to send if you are not member of the immediate family. Here is a general guide on what type of arrangements are suitable, given your relationship to the deceased and to the family. Please also review our list of religions to determine if flowers are an appropriate gesture for the denomination.

For Immediate Family Sending to the Funeral Service:
If the loss is an immediate family member traditional larger pieces such as wreaths, hearts & crosses, large floral standing sprays, or a casket flowers (if you are a spouse or adult child for a parent) is appropriate to choose. Often family members may send one large piece from several siblings or a combination of pieces.

For Friends Sending to the Funeral Service:
Friends generally send standing sprays or flower baskets that are placed on display for the funeral service.

For Friends Sending a Sympathy Gift to the Home:
If you are unable to attend the services, it is generally appropriate to send a gesture of sympathy to the surviving family's home. Before sending any flowers or gifts, it is always best to know if there are religious or cultural concerns. Traditional choices for a sympathy gift to the home are an elegant vase of flowers, basket arrangement or blooming plant, fruit baskets, food baskets and gourmet baskets.
For Coworkers Sending to the Funeral Service:
Coworkers will generally send the gift as a group. Appropriate floral arrangements for the service would be a standing spray, standing basket, fireside basket.

For Coworkers Sending a Sympathy Gift to the Home:
Depending on your relationship, a note or card would be appropriate extending your sympathy. If you work closely together, sending a floral basket arrangement, dish garden or blooming plant is an appropriate gesture. Additional ideas are fruit baskets, food baskets and gourmet baskets.