The Corsage and Boutonniere: A Floral History

From tulips to chrysanthemums, our series “The Language of Flowers” explores everything from fresh flower care tips to flower symbolism and meaning. Learn all about the rich history of corsages and boutonnieres, including where they come from, what they mean, and why we wear them.

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Throughout history, whenever people dressed for a formal event, flowers were always an important part of the outfit. Formalwear demanded floral accessories. And the two most popular items adorning outfits were corsages and boutonnieres.

Today, flowers on dresses, lapels, wrists, and hair are popular, especially at high school proms and weddings, according to Jackie Lacey, a member of the Professional Floral Commentators International and the 2019-2021 National President of the American Institute of Floral Designers. Floral accouterments are fashion statements, Lacey says, just as much as wearing jewelry or accessorizing with scarves, gloves, and bags.

The practice of wearing flowers as decoration goes back thousands of years.

History of corsages

Traditionally, a corsage was a small bouquet pinned to a dress. Ancient Greeks believed fragrant flowers warded off evil spirits, which explains why brides carried bouquets down the aisle or pinned flowers to themselves.

Derived from the French words “bouquet de corsage,” which translates to “bouquet of the bodice,” corsages originally were worn by French women to weddings and funerals, and were most often pinned to the top of their dresses.

In the Victorian era, women started putting flowers in their décolletage, the low-cut neckline of their dress. “One of the reasons corsages were moved to the shoulder was because the suitor, if he brought her one, would never touch a woman in that area of her body,” Lacey says. “So they were moved to the shoulder, where he could pin it appropriately.”

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The 21st century ushered in sleeveless and spaghetti-strap dresses, and that led to corsages making their way from women’s chests to their wrists.

We typically think of corsages and boutonnieres as popping up around prom season. But corsages used to show up at church and brunch on holidays such as Easter and Mother’s Day. “Corsages were worn for Easter as part of new clothes. They became a fashion accessory that you would wear,” Lacey says.

While corsages used to be a symbol of romantic love, they’ve become more of a fashion statement in recent years. Today, it’s not uncommon for parents to buy a corsage for their daughter, friends to buy them for one another, and even people to buy them as gifts for themselves.

History of boutonnieres

The boutonniere dates back to the ancient Egyptians and Aztecs, who wore flowers to indicate which team or player they supported in sporting events, Lacey says.

In the 15th century, a woman who was interested in a knight might give him flowers or a scarf in the color of the dress she was wearing on his foray into battle, Lacey says. The gesture meant good luck and bestowed her good graces on the knight.

Lacey points to the Wars of the Roses, when the Lancaster family wore red and the York family white as part of their coat of armor, as a key point in the history of boutonnieres.

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“Flowers were worn to show support to one side of a battle over the other because the speech and clothing would have likely been the same,” he says. The English wars for power were the gateway to men wearing flowers or boutonnieres.

The rise of men wearing boutonnieres, or lapel adornments, grew in the early 19th century, when the period dress began to include coats that folded over at the top and included a buttonhole, Lacey says. “Many men would wear flowers every day as part of their daily clothing since most men in business wore a suit to work,” he adds.

As recently as 20 years ago, boutonnieres could be observed on the suits — typically on the left side, where the lapel buttonhole is — of men on Mother’s Day, Lacey found. “There used to be a huge market of flowers in white or red to indicate whether or not your mother was alive,” he says. White meant she was living, and red meant she was not.

The boutonniere became a key element of a promgoers’ attire, although they did go out of style for a few years, starting around 2012. “Young people, for a little while, felt the flowers were passé, an extra expense, and a luxury they could do without,” Lacey says. Sales of prom flowers are back today, with young people choosing to express themselves with their flower choices, and that is partly because of creativity in the industry. “Some of the increase was due to flower shops rethinking the way they market to this generation and how to recapture declining sales,” he says.

Today, boutonnieres also are often seen on the lapel of a groom and other members of his bridal party at his wedding, with the women carrying corresponding bouquets of flowers. The sophisticate may occasionally wear a boutonniere at a special event such as an auction or a fundraising party. A flower on the lapel is also a mark of significance on special occasions. “Wearing a boutonniere might show you are being honored or of importance to the event,” Lacey says.

The history and tradition of corsages and boutonnieres is surprisingly rich and eclectic. If you’re a promgoer this year, or if someone close to you is, you’re now equipped with all you need to know to choose the perfect flowers for the big night.

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How to Pick the Perfect Flowers for a Prom Corsage or Boutonniere

The month of May brings that cherished end-of-the-school-year tradition — prom! From the “promposal” to the exchange of the corsage and boutonniere, each couple takes a personal journey, one that culminates in an evening that they will remember for the rest of their lives.

Proms have been around since around the turn of the 20th century, but the tradition of wearing flowers goes back thousands of years. Read on to learn more about the history of exchanging flowers during prom, as well as how to choose the best floral look for the night.

History of corsages and boutonnieres

Flowers have been worn since the time of the Greeks. “They thought the fragrance from the flowers would ward off evil spirits or disease,” says Jackie Lacey, a member of the Professional Floral Commentators International and the 2019-21 National President of the American Institute of Floral Designers. Ancient Greek floral arrangements included herbs and flowers.

The prom corsages we know today became popular over 100 years ago, when young men would present a bouquet to a woman’s family as a way of saying thanks for the date. The man would break off one of the blooms and pin it to his date’s dress. “Now it’s turned into the date’s corsage instead of buying flowers for the mom,” Lacey says. “But I still suggest it — it’s a great way to get on the good side of the parents,” he says with a laugh.

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The tradition of exchanging flowers at the beginning of a date led to today’s gifts of corsages and boutonnieres at proms. While boutonnieres continue to adorn a guy’s left shoulder or lapel, corsages may be pinned to the belt or top of a dress. Especially popular are wrist corsages, as many dresses are made of delicate beading or strapless and, thus, have no place for a pin, Lacey notes. There are even keepsake corsages made of silk roses that allow you to keep the memory of the night.

Tips for picking the prom corsage and boutonniere

Typically, the person buying the corsage asks the wearer about outfit colors so the flowers match or are complementary to the dress or suit. It’s best to have a discussion with your date before the event about what you’re wearing, which colors you like — and which ones you don’t — and whether you’d prefer a wrist corsage or a corsage on your dress. Maybe you’re planning a head wreath and you’d rather not have a corsage at all. Prepping will add anticipation to the special night.

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One idea for the guys: Take a cue from past generations and buy a bouquet of roses that complement your date’s dress, and then pull one out for her to carry. A single red rose is a statement: It’s classic, elegant, and beautiful.

Lacey advises ordering your prom corsage or boutonniere early — one to two weeks in advance. That’s to allow time for the May rush of Kentucky Derby partiesMother’s Day, showers, and both senior and junior proms. Ordering early will increase the chances of getting the type of flowers you prefer.

Lacey also recommends picking up your arrangements the day before prom since prom day can be hectic for both you and your florist. “Keep the flowers sealed in the container and store them in the refrigerator away from the freezer,” he says. “As long as they are kept cool and not frozen, your flowers should be fine for a day in the fridge.”

If your date wants flowers in her hair — even one or two of the corsage blooms — make sure you get those to her early in the day.

Finally, make sure to take pictures of the exchange, the couple, and friends. You’ll want to remember this night!

Adornment for the hair

Wearing flowers in the hair has become popular with promgoers over the past few years, according to Lacey. “They call it a halo, head wreath, or head ring, or attach flowers to a comb or barrette,” he says. Bands were really popular when fascinators became in fashion a few years ago. A florist might add ribbons, beads, and rhinestones as accessories to the flowers for the head wreath or crown.

Flowers that last

It’s important to use flowers that will look fresh without water for corsages, boutonnieres, and hair adornments. “Most of the flowers today are glued in with adhesive rather than tape and wire, which cuts down on the weight,” Lacey says. “This allows you to get creative with what you’re providing, but it limits what you can use without water and with greater expense.”

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Here are Lacey’s picks for popular flowers to use for prom creations:

Traditional choices for prom corsages

Modern choices for prom corsages

  • Hypericum berries
  • Herbs (mint, lavender, sage)
  • Eucalyptus
  • Crespedia
  • Foliage (for a more natural, organic look)

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No Secrets Here: 10 Steps for Planning a Memorable Surprise Birthday Party

From winning gift ideas to card message suggestions, “Birthdays Reimagined” provides tips to help you make your loved one’s birthday wishes come true. In this article, learn how to keep your surprise party planning a secret as well as some celebration ideas to help you throw an unforgettable birthday bash.

“Surprise!”

The very word gets us excited and conjures up memories of the times we’ve been caught off guard by fun. The element of the unexpected raises the level of anticipation when planning a surprise birthday party — and keeping a covert mission from the guest of honor is entertaining for everyone who is involved behind the scenes. A surprise party means being both stealthy and creative.

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Here, we help you navigate the process, from guests to food to gifts and more.

Step 1: Book the guest of honor and set the date

To keep your friend or family member from discovering your plans, get a firm commitment from him or her to celebrate their special day with you. Make a decoy plan, such as a family birthday dinner or drinks with friends.

Making a date on the honoree’s birthday guarantees they will attend their own party. It also keeps them from wondering why no one is planning something for their special day. Another option is to schedule the celebration for a more convenient time rather than their actual birthdate, such as the weekend before.

Step 2: Pick a venue

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When choosing the location, consider activities the guest of honor enjoys, advises Sue Moretti Bodson, founder and president of Emboss, an events and communications company in Greenwich, Connecticut. Will she like a party at a brewery with hay bales and a live local band, or is she more of a classic dinner party lover? Does he love good food or would he rather get everyone on the rock climbing wall?

“Bear in mind who you are surprising and what their likes and interests are,” Bodson says. “Asking someone to meet you at a fancy restaurant who is a more lowkey person isn’t going to fly.”

Step 3: Organize the guest list

Once you secure the location, you’ll have an idea of how many guests the space holds. Jot down a list of possible attendees.

Ensure you’re on the guests’ calendars six to eight weeks out and be very clear it’s a surprise so no one spoils the surprise. And don’t tell more folks than you have to. “Keep the circle very tight,” Bodson recommends.

Step 4: Directing the guests

Start a group text or Facebook chat to review the details of the big day. These should include what time guests should arrive, the guest of honor’s arrival time, where to park cars (so they are not visible to the guest of honor), and the venue address.

Bear in mind who you are surprising and what their likes and interests are. Asking someone to meet you at a fancy restaurant who is a more lowkey person isn’t going to fly.

Sue Moretti Bodson

Founder and president, Emboss

Step 5: Stun the honoree with surprise guests

One way to really make the birthday girl swoon is to invite favorite family members from faraway locations or important people (a mentor, best friend) from her past whom she rarely gets to see.

Work with the special guests to find a local place to stay and make sure you set up a time for them to spend the day after the surprise party. The excitement of connecting the birthday girl with out-of-town relations will guarantee a lasting memory.

Bodson planned a dinner for her father in New York City. “My sister, who lives in North Carolina, met us as a surprise, which he loved,” she says. Bodson then continued the surprise by giving her dad tickets to see Rocky on Broadway, since he is a boxing fan.

Step 6: Choose the music

Follow the classic ideas to throwing a good party and firm up the music selection. If you’re hiring musicians, start looking for them immediately. Live music requires a longer lead time. GigSalad is a useful site to help find local musicians and other entertainment. Ask friends, local musicians, or even your child’s music instructor for suggestions.

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If you’ll be DJing, start working on a playlist two weeks out. Be creative and design a music list based on the birthday girl’s favorite songs. Another option is to create a greatest hits song list from the year they were born.

Step 7: Create the menu

What you serve will set the tone of the gathering. You can be simple, with beer and pretzels or margaritas and guacamole. If your party girl has swankier preferences, serve champagne and macarons. And don’t forget the birthday cake.

Step 8: Order decorations

Decorations, such as bannersballoons, and flowers, will set the party’s style. Connect the color scheme of your decorating items and you can have a festive look with just a few clicks of the mouse. Be sure to order gifts or party favors early. Last-minute arrivals can be overwhelming, with you having so many duties to attend to.

Step 9: Offer gift ideas to guests

Include any gift requirements in your group chat. Share details, such as if there will be a gift table at the venue, or give helpful links that reflect the birthday girl’s favorite goodies. Deliveries like flowers and gift baskets sent directly to the guest of honor’s residence after the party are an easier way to gift. They also don’t impose on the venue and eliminate the trouble of having to transport the presents home after the celebration.

One idea is to create a personalized photo album. This keepsake will entertain guests while they wait for the party to begin and is a thoughtful gift. Be sure to take pictures at the party and have them printed after so they can be added to the album.

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Step 10: Time it right

Timing is everything with a surprise party. Guests should arrive 30 minutes before the birthday girl or boy arrives. Emphasize the importance of promptness, since latecomers could arrive at the same time as the guest of honor, which will spoil all the fun.

While people are waiting for the birthday party to begin, have guests fill out “would you rather” cards you’ve printed beforehand. Serve light food and non-alcoholic drinks — just not anything too celebratory, as you don’t want the guest of honor to feel like they’ve missed any of the fun at their own party.

Don’t worry if the plans don’t go as expected. Some attendees may cancel. The balloons may have escaped when you opened the car door. In the end, it’s about celebrating a birthday in the most surprising way. And how fun is that?

Forgot Your Anniversary? What to Do to Make Amends

“Modern Expressions” is a series that helps you to find the perfect words and actions to express yourself. Forgot your anniversary? Follow these helpful tips on how to smooth things over.

Maybe you were too tired from watching sports to make an effort on your anniversary. Or you completely forgot because you had to drag yourself to work and by the time you got home, you didn’t want to do anything except watch your new favorite TV show.

A true test of a couple’s love is how you handle a misstep when someone goofs by forgetting an important date like an anniversary or Valentine’s Day. Yup, it happens to the best of us.

The best thing you can do in this situation is to own up.”

Jaime Bronstein

Relationship Expert

Host of Love Talk Live

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For advice on dealing with romantic missteps, we spoke with Jaime Bronstein, a relationship therapist and host of “Love Talk Live” on LA Talk Radio.

Her first tip: Apologize.

“The best thing you can do in this situation is to own up,” she says. “It’s more important that you get out of the ‘doghouse,’ and you do that by apologizing authentically.”

The fact that your significant other is upset by something you did is all that matters, Bronstein says. “You can say something to the effect of, ‘I’m sorry if I upset you; I didn’t mean to. I’m asking for your forgiveness.'”

Here are some of her other recommendations for making amends if you forgot an anniversary or another romantic occasion.

Plan a makeup session

Bronstein recommends having a special couples night planned at a time convenient for both of you.

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Develop an activity together. Ideas include staying in or going to your favorite restaurant or a new place you haven’t been to. The date is just about the two of you. A weekend plan is also more attractive because you don’t have to rush home and can sleep in the next morning, says Bronstein.

“I love the idea of both playing ‘hooky’ and spending an entire day together. That would 100% make up for the mistake,” Bronstein says. “A whole day together devoted to one another can be very bonding and healthy for your relationship to reconnect.”

Even better, make your Valentine’s Day makeup session on a weekday. Turn off the alarm, stay in PJs by the fire, participate in your favorite lazy morning activities, or go out for brunch.

Last-minute anniversary gifts always work

Whatever you decide to do, don’t forget a gift that expresses your love: a pretty braceletchocolate-covered strawberries, and a heartfelt noteFlowers always work. Ever experience how a flower delivery can make your loved one forget why they were originally upset? It is a simple way to show you care, diffuse any bad feelings, and she gets a beautiful bouquet to admire.

Bronstein also suggests a spa day, dinner at the restaurant of her choice, or at home, a football-themed gift (“if she has a sense of humor!” Bronstein adds). Another clever way to surprise your mate is to offer her a SmartGift. You text her and she can accept the flowers you’ve chosen or choose flowers of her liking. It’s an absolute can’t-miss gift!

The ultimate way to apologize after using your words is to send a flower subscription. She’ll be reminded monthly how much you do love her and how sorry you are.

The written word

And any present must be accompanied by a note. “Include a very thoughtful card with a meaningful message,” she says. “Write a longer message than normal to express your love and gratitude for your significant other and how sorry you are!” That will surely get your relationship back on track and you in her good graces!

Lessons learned if you forgot your anniversary

Now that the mishap is hopefully diffused, use the opportunity to discuss what happened. Be honest about why you forgot your anniversary, whether it was a work project or big sports event.

Your partner has her part in being forgiving, too.

“A relationship will get stronger the more open each person is to listening to each other and doing whatever they can to enhance the romance in the relationship,” Bronstein says. “When there is mutual respect and understanding in a relationship, it is attractive, naturally bringing on more romance.” And that is something every woman will welcome.

8 Ideas for What to Do with Flowers After an Event

From tulips to chrysanthemums, our series “Flower Care” explores everything from fresh flower care tips to flower symbolism and meaning. In this story, we provide eight ideas on what you can do with flowers after an event.

“Flowers… are a proud assertion that a ray of beauty outvalues all the utilities of the world.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

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You’ve planned a wedding, gala, or special party for months, worked with a florist to come up with color schemes and the perfect arrangements, you’ve chosen vases and other accouterments. Now the last sip of wine has been drunk, the band has packed up its gear, the guests have gone, and you’re left with Cinderella’s slipper and oh, just about 25 gorgeous arrangements with no home of their own.

The idea of tossing bouquets after their moment in the spotlight has a tragic undertone. We’re here to dispel the concept of what to do with your bouquets after the clock has struck midnight. Follow the below tips for ideas from our experts.

1. Say thank you with flowers after an event

Many times the people working your event will inquire about taking home some of the florals, says Jackie Lacey, a member of the Professional Floral Commentators International, and the 2019-21 National President of the American Institute of Floral Designers. “It is a great way to say thank you to those who helped make your special day go smoothly.” Make sure you have a contact to organize this since you’ll be ready to take off your dancing shoes yourself and note that the venue may charge extra if the flowers are left for them to remove, he adds.

2. Dry, wax, preserve your flowers

Flowers can be dried out, used in crafts, pressed, and given as gifts. Many flowers dry out beautifully, notably roseshydrangea, and statice. Simply tie them at the end, hang them upside down, and let them dry for about two weeks as recommended by Julie Mulligan, 1-800-Flowers.com’s lifestyle and crafting expert.

Mulligan is also a fan of waxing flowers, which is a fun project and the preserved beauties look great in a keepsake box or centerpieces. “While waxing does not preserve the flower indefinitely, it does let you extend the enjoyment and pleasure that flower gives you,” she says.

3. Acknowledge the seniors

Call ahead to your local nursing homes or adult daycares to see if flowers would be a welcomed donation to their residents. Just a few hours old, these bouquets will bring some beauty indoors.

Have kids been invited to your festivities? Make a children’s craft table at your party complete with crayons, stickers, and card stock to send sweet notes to accompany your floral arrangement gifts for the older recipients. Your guests will be delighted to see the little ones’ creativity and sentiment. Plus it’s a good way to have kids start thinking of others (and it’s an activity to occupy them!)

4. Search for a nonprofit flower donation organization

A group called Random Acts of Flowers is in three United States cities, says Lacey. They will work with you to create repurposed bouquets for local healthcare facilities to increase emotional well-being and mental health by doing good and spreading kindness through flowers.

Bonus: All materials are recycled. “They do an incredible job at letting flowers live their fullest life and making the most people smile that they can,” says Lacey. If Random Acts of Flowers is not near you, search your region for other organizations who do this type of work as well, he suggests.

5. Thank an educator

Work with your local public school principal and see if you can drop a bouquet off for teachers. You can add a small note that says “Every day is teacher appreciation day. Thank you for your work!” Another idea is to repurpose flowers from events for training and art projects, says Lacey. “Reach out to an art teacher, art department, or an art school to see if they have this type of need in your area,” he adds.

6. Repurpose flowers at home

For a smaller event, you can take the arrangements apart and brighten your own house. Adorn your children’s rooms with mini bouquets. Place a stem in a bud vase in the bath. Create a short, tight arrangement (trim the stems) in a container to place on your bedside table. Make a centerpiece on your dining table to remind you of your special event. And don’t forget the floral food if you are putting flowers in new vases. These repurposed bouquets don’t just have to beautify your house – you can bring them to anyone: a neighbor, a friend needing a pick me up, the caterer who helped you the night before, or your loved ones.

7. Donate to an organization that facilitates long-term stays

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Sometimes families have to stay in a special house (think the Ronald McDonald House) when a loved one, particularly a child, is having hospital care or surgery requiring many weeks or months of hospitalization.

There are also local organizations that provide safe, affordable housing for the mentally ill or recovering addicts to transition to living substance-free. Contact a facility in your area to see if flowers would be a welcome change of scenery.

Spread the word! Knowing that flowers will be enjoyed by others after an event — providing happiness and sustainability — contributes to a caring ethos.

8. Purposeful petals

Imagine the possibilities if you accumulate the petals from all of your floral arrangements. Natural confetti. Place in containers throughout the home and take in their beauty and scent. Use the petals to write a love message. Options abound!

But did you know petals have been used for millennia in beauty formulations? “Roses have healing, hydrating, and softening skin properties. Most importantly roses have the highest vibrational frequency of any botanical,” says Kristin Petrovich, founder of själ skincare, a luxury skincare brand that includes quality ingredients and gemstones in its products because of their high vibrational properties, which targets and boosts the weaker cells to promote healthy skin.

You can also use rose petals to treat acne and breakouts. Just dip in water and leave the petal on the irritated skin overnight, recommends Petrovich. Making rose water is another way to leverage your petals and it’s simple to do. First, make sure your roses are organic. Then, wash and dry the petals, lightly rub until their surface is slightly bruised, and place them in a shallow dish filled with unscented oil. (Jojoba works well and is available in most drug stores). Remove the petals and replace them with another batch of bruised petals to increase the intensity.


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Zodiac Compatibility: Find the Best Gifts with Celestial Guidance

Whether you’re looking for romantic gift ideas or ways to make yourself feel loved, “Your Trusted Cupid” brings you top-notch advice from relationship experts. This story reviews zodiac compatibility and the perfect gift to give your loved one based on their sign.

Is your love written in the stars? Is falling in love as easy as plugging your birthday into Google and asking what’s the best zodiac match for your specific sign?

Zodiac compatibility is not that straightforward, says Sterling Bowen, astrology expert at Sanctuary, a company that offers daily personalized horoscopes, live birth chart readings, and on-demand astrologers. One way to improve your relationship with your partner is to learn which signs combine well across the four elements of our natural world: fire, earth, air, and water. Each element is assigned to three zodiac signs.

Your astrology is complicated — just like love!

Sterling Bowen

Astrologer

Sanctuary

By looking at the elements, you can get a sense of how best to work with each partner’s sign. The elements that pair well together have temperamental tendencies associated with them that balance out other qualities. Say, perhaps, as an air sign Gemini you tend to have trouble staying grounded. The steadiness of Capricorn, which is an earth sign, will help you with that.

But don’t sweat it if your relationship isn’t a love pair according to the elements. “A lot of what makes two people compatible is choosing to understand that it’s complicated,” says Bowen. “Ultimately communication and honesty are going to be your best tools. Some signs may have easier times doing that, but that’s part of learning about other people.”

So certain temperaments work together better than others, but there are no disastrous astrological relationships. “Your astrology is complicated — just like love!” he says.

Below, Sanctuary defines the temperamental tendencies associated with the four elements and which signs pair well. Once you know if Taurus, for example, is a good fit for Cancer, then you can take a peek at our list of perfect gifts for each star sign for Valentine’s Daybirthdaysanniversaries, or a “just because” celebration.

The elements and their signs

Fire: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius

Temperament: Energetic, motivated, passionate

Fire signs tend to act first, think later, so air signs can help keep them focused. “Water signs can be good partners to keep them from burning out,” says Bowen.

Pairs well with: Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) and Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces).

Earth: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn

Temperament: Grounded, steady, stable

Earth signs might get stuck in a rut or miss opportunity when it presents itself.

Pairs well with: Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces).”Fire signs can be good matches to keep their thirst for life alive,” says Sanctuary’s Bowen. “Water signs can be good partners to help them appreciate change.”

Air: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius

Temperament: Cerebral, energetic, excellent communicators

Air signs can have their heads stuck in the clouds and don’t always live in the present.

Pairs well with: Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) and Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius). Earth signs will help keep them grounded and the Fire element zodiac signs will keep them living in the moment.

Water: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces

Temperament: Emotive, feeling, intuitive

Water signs can have trouble staying grounded and in reality.

Pairs well with: Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) and Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius). Earth signs will keep Water signs grounded and living in the present, while “Air signs can be good partners to keep their heads clear,” says Bowen.

Best gifts for your partner’s zodiac sign

Now that you know a bit more about how signs best relate, Bowen offers star-approved flowers and gifts to give your love match. There’s nothing wrong with using a little cheat sheet from the universe to make sure your partner is happy with their next gift!

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Vibrant Blooms Bouquet

Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Energetic and enthusiastic, Aries needs accessories that will keep up with them. This bright arrangement is sure to inspire and liven up any room (just like them!)

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Northern Lights Meditation Candles

Taurus (April 20 – May 21)

Taurus is the master of the mood, cultivating the best of everything. Help them set the ambiance for the evening with a celestial candle set that promotes serenity.

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Kaleidoscope Roses

Gemini (May 21 – June 21)

Curious and just a dash chaotic, Gemini’s mind is constantly whirling with innovative ideas. They deserve a floral treat that is just as colorful and unpredictable as they are!

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Relax & Nurture Tea Gift Basket

Cancer (June 21 – July 23)

Cozy Cancer is all about downtime. Soothe their spirit and inspire calming moments with a mug, tea, and sweets basket that helps them cultivate self-care.

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Floral Embrace

Leo (July 23 – Aug. 23)

Bright, cheerful, and full of sunflowers, this bouquet reminds any Leo that they shine bright in your life. Plus, Leo is ruled by the sun, so the stars are aligned with this choice of gift!

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Juniper Bonsai

Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 23)

Every Virgo deserves a moment to themselves in which they do not have to solve any problems. Treat your favorite Virgo to a moment of quiet and contemplation by bringing the outdoors in with this zen-like bonsai. (And giving them a chance to be meticulous without interference.)

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Ultimate Elegance™ Long Stem Pink & Red Roses

Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 23)

Keen on charming, Libras can be counted on to set the atmosphere and let romance flourish. Sweep them off their feet with a classic arrangement straight out of a fairytale.

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Night Sky by Magnificent Roses

Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 22)

No one surprises quite like a Scorpio, which is why this unconventional conversation starter of preserved roses is perfect for them. As deep as a moonless evening and just as complex, these roses share all the qualities of your favorite Scorpio.

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Exotic Breeze™ Orchids

Sagittarius (Nov. 23 – Dec. 22)

Check to make sure your favortie Sagittarius isn’t currently traveling before sending these exuberant orchids. The hearty orchids are long-lasting and may be just the gift to recall flowers from a past journey.

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Gourmet Dipped Strawberries

Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 20)

Our earthy Capricorns are highly connected to the senses. And these hard workers deserve a delicious treat. We couldn’t think of a better gift than fresh strawberries covered in rich chocolate.

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Celestial Heavens Puzzle Gift Set

Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 19)

There’s nothing an intellectual Aquarius loves more than solving a problem and looking at the bigger picture. Harness their skills for a fun activity you can share (as long as you let them do the final piece).

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Wonderful Wishes Bouquet

Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 21)

Give a Pisces three wishes and they’ll wish for a thousand more. They can’t help it, they love to dream! Encourage their fantasies and daydreams with a bouquet that they can get lost in.

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Relationship Coach Eros Miranda Shares His Tips on Healthy Coupling

Ready to make their heart flutter? Whether you’re looking for romantic gift ideas or tips on how to sweep them off their feet, “Your Trusted Cupid” brings you top-notch advice from relationship experts. This profile of Eros Miranda, relationship coach, and TikTok sensation, offers helpful advice for couples.

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With a name like Eros, the Greek god of love, you’re almost predestined to have a career related to human relationships. Such was the case for Eros Miranda, a relationship coach, TikTok influencer, and host of the Eros to the Heart podcast.

Since Miranda was a child, he was curious about love and the intricacies of what makes a successful coupling. “I recall always wanting to help others and was particularly intrigued about relationship dynamics,” he says. “I wanted to understand why certain individuals were in healthy relationships, while others were being mistreated.”

His passion for helping others led him to law school and a focus on family law. “I chose Notre Dame because I believed in the philosophy of their law school: Use the law as a vocation to serve others,” he says.

His legal career started in Florida in 2018, but at the same time, he realized he wanted to use his expertise to help individuals in all aspects of their relationships.

“Specifically, I noticed that those in unhealthy relationships had their backs against the wall, so I wanted to offer alternatives and solutions that went beyond the legal aspects,” he says. He became a certified relationship coach to broaden his ability to assist others.

Today, he’s not just a lawyer guiding clients through the legal process but an empathetic, advice-giving counselor to those struggling to be heard.

Social media influence

With 1.2 million TikTok followers, Miranda is fulfilling a need for people in a relationship seeking his expertise. “I understood that as my influence grew so did my responsibility to make a positive impact.”

Miranda gives credit to his legal background and training in analytical and critical thinking for his success as a relationship coach and expert. “I learned that no two scenarios are alike. I identify the problem and develop the solution,” he says.

I understood that as my influence grew, so did my responsibility to make a positive impact.

Eros Miranda, relationship expert

“When I hear, ‘Eros, you really saved my relationship’ or ‘Eros, you made me realize I was in a toxic relationship,’ I have never felt so accomplished as when I help those people,” he says. A noble effort, and likely approved by his godly counterpart.

We sat down to get some love tips straight from Eros himself.

Learn your love languages

Miranda is influenced by Dr. Gary Chapman’s love languages and encourages couples to discover how you and your mate prefer to show and receive love. “How do they like to be loved?” he asks. “Is it words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts?” Couples can explore the love languages philosophy together.

High on the list of successful coupling is to be good listeners, Miranda says. That means not just waiting for your turn to talk. Repeat back to them what they’ve said, then add your voice. Pay attention and truly learn about your partner, Miranda says. “Notice if they like to be held or told they’re going to be OK, how they react to certain situations,” he adds.

On Valentine’s Day, you may want to try expressing your feelings with words of affirmation (one of the love languages). Whether in a letter or card, write from the heart, Miranda says. Take time to sit down and compose something sweet and thoughtful. Maybe this is the year you try a love poem, or, Miranda suggests, a romantic list of songs.

Romanticize the little things

People often wonder how to get the honeymoon phase, or the spark, back. Miranda suggests finding romance in the day to day. “In the beginning, everything is butterflies and rainbows when you’re falling in love,” Miranda says with a laugh.

“The honeymoon phase is being reliable. Calling in the morning and saying, ‘I’m going to have a busy day at work, I’ll call you later,'” he says. Couples often get too comfortable, and we take each other for granted.

Miranda also says we should be grateful for our partners. Say thank you. Remember that relationships are a choice, and every day you are choosing to be with your partner.

Write a sticky note that says “Have a great day!” Offer a back massage. Sit with your teen when he’s watching his favorite show. Arrange a dinner delivery for a friend when she’s having a hard week. Or send flowers. All these are expressions of love.

“Gifting flowers is so beautiful,” Miranda says. “It’s an unexpected yet thoughtful gift that immediately shows appreciation and love for the recipient, even if it’s not a romantic partner.”

While relationships require work, sometimes putting in the effort is fun. That’s why Eros loves Valentine’s Day. “The day is a chance to revamp the relationship. Break routines. Get love back. Do something special. Flirt like the beginning. Prioritize intimacy.” Plan dinner, a date night, or bring home roses in her favorite color, he suggests.

Address challenges

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The top issue Miranda sees in relationships today is communication. No surprise there, as couples have been trying to figure out how to talk to each other since, well, Zeus and Hera. Communication is the basis of a healthy, loving relationship.

When we disagree, childhood needs can bubble to the surface. We might not feel safe. We might want to run. We might want to fight. Know yourself. If you’re not ready to talk, tell your partner you need a moment to collect yourself. Say you need a break, perhaps a walk to gather your thoughts, but you’ll be back.

Returning to the conversation when you’re ready puts you in a better mindset and could save many relationships, he says. It’s OK to say, “Hey, I’m just not in a space to discuss this right now, but I care about you, and I will return to the conversation when I’m able.” Then make sure you follow through.

Miranda recommends using “I” statements to take the burden off your significant other. That means focusing on how you’re feeling instead of their actions. “Say, ‘I feel distant because we haven’t been connecting as much as we could have,'” he says. Suggest ways to come together, perhaps having lunch together, or if you’re in a long-distance relationship, set up a call every morning or at night.

“Approach those tough conversations in a very amicable way,” he adds. There’s nothing more important than being kind.

Be your best you

Miranda emphasizes that while we love our partners, it’s important not to lose our sense of self. His mindset: The couple is stronger together when each person is at his or her most fulfilled individually.

The confidence you get from making yourself the best person you can be is so important for you but also makes you more attractive to your partner. “Improve yourself by working out, focus on your academics or your job,” he says.

But that doesn’t mean you should forget about your loved one’s passions. Embrace what your partner likes. Loving someone means loving all of them. Their sports or personal interests can flow over to you and strengthen your bond. Their enthusiasm for what they love can be exciting for you, too, if you let it.


Share your love with curated gift picks from the Eros Miranda collection page. From a Passion for Purple Roses flower bouquet to a Denarii Lavender Spa Tower, these gifts will bring joy to your loved one.

4 Birthday Party Themes for Adults to Make You Feel Like a Kid Again

From winning gift ideas to card message suggestions, “Birthdays Reimagined” provides tips to help you make your loved one’s birthday wishes come true. In this story, we offer four inspiring birthday party themes for adults.

Planning a friend’s blowout birthday bash with a grownup appeal? How do you make it simple, seamless, and guaranteed good time? Try on one of four birthday party themes for adults: the Cocktail Party, the Dinner Party, the Tailgate Party, and the Milestone Party for the ultimate birthday celebration. And be sure to read closely because there’s a lot of great ideas you won’t want to miss!

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1. The Cocktail Party

Who: The birthday girl’s best friends, plus a few more

What: Drinks and hors d’oeuvres

When: 5 p.m. – 7 p.m.

Where: Your back patio with an outdoor fire pit roaring

Why it’s great: Everyone gets a taste of fun, and there’s not a huge commitment. You can always continue to dinner at someone’s place or a restaurant.

The details

How you invite your guests sets the tone. For a last-minute small group gathering, a casual text with all the details works — but expect jeans, not little black dresses. Looking to elevate? Hand deliver or mail a chic card with a special icon that reflects the guest of honor or the event’s theme, such as a fishing rod, skis, or a palm tree.

Flowers + Conversation Pieces

Flowers are a must and can be conversation starters if they are original, like a party cat made from ruffled carnations. Other selects should include something the guest of honor can take home as a special favor. Next to your bouquet, place some conversation cards. DIY suggestions: “What is the age you most associate yourself with?” “Where do you see yourself on this day in 10 years?” “What did you do for your 21st/30th/40th birthday?”

Drinks

Set up drinks at a different spot from the food to encourage mingling. Serving just wine or one signature cocktail is acceptable for a smaller event.

What to serve

A wooden serving board with assorted cheeses, grapes, dried fruits like figs and apricots, nuts such as cashews and Marcona almonds, cured meats, olives, and a sprig of rosemary is a gorgeous focal point. Provide small china plates and cocktail napkins. Pro tip: The fastest way to cool a bottle? Put some water and salt in your ice bucket with the ice.

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2. The Dinner Party

Who: The birthday guest of honor and date, plus three other couples

What: Appetizers, dinner, and dessert

When: 6 p.m. – 9 p.m.

Where: Your dining room

Why it’s great: Few people throw a seated dinner anymore. It feels exclusive and unique to sit down with friends sans devices for a few hours and connect.

Drinks

Welcome guests with a glass of seltzer or wine – pre-pour at your prepared “bar” (any table will do). The setup: still water with lemon slices in a pitcher, individual seltzer bottles, red wine, and Prosecco and white wine in a wine bucket with ice. Don’t forget some cocktail napkins that match your theme – keep in mind the guest of honor’s favorite colors or hobbies. Tennis or golf enthusiast? Find or make clever ones: “Tennis begins with LOVE” for the doubles player or “Queen of the Green” for the golfer.

Dinner

Have your dinner prepped as much as possible in advance (Not a chef? Outsource dinner: order steaks and twice-baked potatoes that you can pop in the oven.)

Tablesetting

Set the table before guests arrive. Lots of candlelight and low lighting are a must. Flowers, too, with a range that can be as simple as a favorite flower to a fun floral birthday cake made with colorful blooms and a mylar balloon. Keep them low to the table so you can keep the conversation flowing as the main focal point. A few thin, tapered candles add height to the table.

Pro tip: Use place cards. Put people together who wouldn’t choose to sit next to each other, but who you know could connect. Then, have everyone switch spots for dessert – let the women sit at one end, the guys at the other – which is where everyone wanted to be in the first place! Or “retire” to the living room for coffee and teapetit fours, and other small treats. Give small boxes of cookies or mini bags of popcorn for everyone to take home.

Pro tip: Remember BMW for setting your table: bread, meal, water. The main plate goes in the middle, a bread plate to the upper left, and your glassware to the upper right. Forks go to the left of your plate and the right in order: knife, then a spoon.


3. The Tailgate Party

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Who: All the birthday guy’s buddies from town, plus their significant others

What: An afternoon of friends, football, and a firepit

When: Noon – 4 p.m. (or around the guest of honor’s favorite team’s kickoff time)

Where: Your backyard

Why it’s great: Who doesn’t love a tailgate? Grilling in the cooler temps, local IPAs, and tossing the ball around make for the perfect party for your football-loving friend.

The details

Backyard gameday calls for fun hay bales covered in cozy blankets and apple cider (you can spike with rum and bourbon and add cinnamon sticks for a signature alcoholic cocktail).

Entertainment

Set out a cornhole game and footballs to toss, and put out a galvanized bucket with seltzer and beer cans. Other fun outdoor activities: Have friends play the classic game of guessing how many candy pieces or cookies are in the mason jar, and whoever wins gets to take it home (make sure to give one to the guest of honor, too). Look into moving the TV outdoors under a covered patio and set up your outdoor furniture with fuzzy blankets for cozy viewing. Finally, this party needs photographic evidence with all these cute details — don’t forget a photo booth!

Pro tip: Outdoor festivities still need tunes! Invest in a portable or all-weather speaker for your event.


4. The Milestone Party

Who: Family, friends, and acquaintances

What: An evening celebration with drinks, appetizers, dinner, dessert, and toasts

When: 7 p.m. – 10 p.m.

Picture of a woman celebrating her 21st birthday

Where: A local venue, restaurant, your house (or a destination!)

Why it’s great: Celebrating a milestone birthday, such as a 30th or a 50th, is a wonderful excuse to get old friends together to meet new ones — and bring the family to town.

The details

For this party, a text or an email won’t do. Printed invitations with an icon of your theme and all the details are a must. Remember to include the honored birthday guest in the planning to know exactly who she’d love to see, what part of her personality would be the focus (meaning does she want a party at the beach or with seaside décor because she lives for toes in the sand or does she prefer having people dress up in their 80s best because she still puts Madonna on to get into the groove) — even what colors she’d like the party to have. Let your preferences go by the wayside and make this about her. Send the invitations a month in advance but spread the word earlier if you want people to save the date. Ask for responses two weeks before the main event.

Sometimes it is the little things that count: order personalized wine cups with the guest of honor’s name and a fun motif representing them. Hiring a local band will take the event to the next level, but you can also create a playlist of favorite bands or plugin a song to Spotify and have the app create one for you. Make sure that you have a few areas for people to mingle.

Food + drink

Put your signature cocktail bar in one spot, cheese and crackers with apple and pear slices in another. For dessert, have cupcakes decorated with the letters of the guest of honor (G and P, for example, for Gwyneth Paltrow) – the trick here, though, is to have guests match up with someone at the party with the same letter so that they can meet new people.

Entertainment

If everyone is well-acquainted, play Two Truths and a Lie, where each person comes up with three statements about themselves, but one isn’t the truth! The others have to guess which is the lie. Take a moment to toast the honored guest. They can choose to say something in response, or skip it! It’s their day!

Pro tip: If you’ve sent an invitation and asked for a reply date, note the number of guests who have said yes by that date. That’s the number of guests to go by for planning purposes. True, you’ll have stragglers who respond they will attend, but people get sick or cancel at the last minute, so it all works out.

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Closing details

Party planning is about focusing on one element or theme and letting it bloom. Work with the guest of honor so you throw a party they are going to want to attend. Don’t forget the little details, but when in doubt, dim the lights, turn up the music, and, like Bridget Jones said, “introduce people with thoughtful details.” And if you’re the guest? Your job is to mingle, meet new people, and have a great time. Let the fun begin!


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What to Write in an Office Birthday Card

From winning gift ideas to card message suggestions, “Birthdays Reimagined” provides tips to help you make birthday wishes come true. Here, learn about how to put the icing on the cake with the perfect office birthday card message ideas to a coworker.

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Ah, the dreaded shared birthday card. You see it gets passed around the office in one of those brown kraft-colored interoffice envelopes. As you wait for your turn, you set aside those TPS reports and sit at your desk thinking about the best birthday card message to write.

And what do you write in a birthday card for a coworker? Does it matter if you’re their manager? Or how long you’ve known them? Or, how about not at all? Figuring this out can be more difficult than picking a dental plan. And Debbie in accounting is waiting on you to finish so she can organize the party. Time is short and space to write your birthday card message is limited. You also want to make sure what you wrote measures up to the awesome birthday flowers everyone chipped in for.

To stand out in a sea of birthday wishes, remember that shorter is better, but still, compose something sincere whether you’re newer acquaintances or close friends. If you need some assistance, here are 25 memorable birthday card messages. If you’re still super stumped, try quoting some legends. Whichever route you take, begin or end each with a hearty, “happy birthday.”

25 messages for a shared birthday card for a coworker

1. Cheers to you! Sending you all the warmth and good wishes that come with a big hug.

2. Happy birthday! Continue to be that rising star that blazes into the year ahead.

3. I’m so glad that we have become friends. Enjoy the happiest of birthdays.

4. Looking forward to working more closely with you in the coming year. It’s been that great!

5. Happy birthday! I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you this past year/the past few years/the past 10 years.

6. Raising a glass to a great person to work with. Happy birthday!

7. You killed it this year! Looking forward to more success in the year ahead.

8. I really admire the way you…

9. Thank you for being there for me this year when…

10. You are my hero, especially when it comes to completing those…

11. It’s not every day that you meet your spirit work twin.

12. Coming to the office each day is better knowing that we’re on the same team. Thank you and have a great birthday!

13. You make the workday easier so you can have the day off. Oops, I better check this with HR first!

14. Thanks for being you, being there, and making the job more rewarding.

15. You’ve been really strong this year. While it’s not always easy, you certainly make it look that way.

16. Congratulations on a year well done, you deserve it!

17. You certainly handle the job with aplomb. I admire you! Happy birthday, friend.

18. You continue to crush it with poise and kindness. Have a happy birthday!

19. I think you’re actually getting younger because your energy is on the rise.

20. You make juggling it all look so simple. Teach me, please.

21. I’m so glad that we finally have a day to celebrate YOU.

22. You’re talented, fun, cool, and — I’m proud to say — a great colleague and friend.

23. I don’t have the skill to write small enough to convey what you do — you are that valued. Thanks for everything and enjoy your day!

24. When I think of what you’ve accomplished, it makes me psyched that we’re part of the same team. Here’s to another great year ahead!

25. You’re a joy to work with, have an epic day!


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